It’s no surprise that a man will almost always react positively to the topic of sex and the prospect of having it often. It doesn’t matter if he is married, single or divorced, his response will be enthusiastic. Conversely, ask a women married for 30 years or more, and you will get a different response. However, if you ask one over 50 about sex after divorce and she’ll respond more like the man with the same, or an even greater level of excitement.
Barry Gold, author of Gray Divorce Stories has had hours and hours of intimate contact with almost two dozen divorced women over 50. But as he says, “it was social intercourse, not the other kind”, so get your mind out of the gutter.
These women told Barry why their sex life faded, and why sex after divorce is so much better. You should see his entire article at divorcedover50.com. Here are some of the interesting quotes from women he spoke to:
What Women Are Saying
For most women, sexual desire is inextricably linked to the quality of their relationship.
Early fifties Donna (not her real name) was typical: “By the time we got into counseling, we were going on two years since we’d had sex,”. “He would initiate, but I just couldn’t do it. I wasn’t connected with him.” “I am going to be so ready to go when that right guy comes along… I cannot wait, because I am so charged up sexually. I have a lot of time to make up for.”
Gayla hated having sex with her husband. “Oh God, it’s Saturday night,”. “He’s gonna start rubbing my back again… It was a chore, like vacuuming, and laundry, things I had to do in my marriage.”
Linda’s story is similar. During the marriage, sex was “…just a habit. He’s the man, who needed a release. But there was no cuddling, no pillow talk. No real intimacy, for years.” And now, after being with another man, she described it as “It was wonderful. He was caring, and gentle, and tender, and WOW!”
Robin, who’s been divorced for a dozen years, sums it up this way: “In my twenties, there’s no way I would have thought sex could be better when I’m ‘old.’ But it really is.”
Adds Carol: “I have never been as horny, or desiring sex as much as I am now. Not even as a teenager, or in my twenties. I don’t ever remember it being so hot. Honestly.”
Barry concluded “the biggest factors that have turned things around for these women is that they’re out of their old, unhappy relationships and with someone new… it’s the approach and attitude the new man brings to the relationship.”
Sex After Divorce?
In short, the happier a women is in the relationship, the more she desires sex with her partner. There are many ways to keep a relationship vibrant and healthy. However, if you are concerned about sex after divorce, you can take comfort in knowing that there are many women over 50 having fulfilling and enjoyable sex lives.